"Spare me a week of faux soul-searching and just say 'yes'"
- Sex and the City, The Movie
What happens when life opens an unexpected door? Going to the gym instead of surfing on the couch - and meeting what turns out to be a best friend... missing a bus that reportedly lost control on the 6pm news... rekindling with a lover... a job referral... discovering your pregnant...
The list goes on, and though some are seemingly larger moments than others, all are life altering opportunities.
As a trainer and life coach, hear often from people that they "don't have the chance to ____[fill in the blank]____"
Sometimes - correction, most of the time - life doesn't allow us chances. Unfortunate? No, that's natural selection. See, it weeds out the weak from the strong... the doers from the settlers.
Where chance is scarce, opportunity is abundant, if you only change your thinking - correction soul-ling.
The obstacle to opportunity is thinking. There's too much thinking, not enough soulling going on in this world.
What is soulling? Given that I made it up right here and now, I suppose it could be whatever I wanted - but then that would be completely contradictory to the very existence and definition of the word. Soulling is striving for exactly what you want. And by 'want', I mean need...and by 'you', I mean your soul.
You know that little [thing, intuition, gut, psychic ability] that is screaming inside you just to jump! - go for it! - don't be afraid! trust yourself to believe it. We are taught to question everything, from the type of toilet paper we use to the right dress that says I'm-sexy-but-not-a-slut, to what college to send our kids to. What we aren't taught to do is trust ourselves. In fact, from the moment we are children, we are taught not to [trust] so much so, that we become prevented from growth, frozen in time - while we decipher each and every decision.
Sometimes - correction, all of the time - [life, God, nature, the divine universe, Buddah, the fucking meter maid] gives us exaclty what we need. We [mortals, Americans, women, humans, idiots] fuck it up by overthinking our circumtance. Is this right for me? How much will this cost? Does it come in 9,000 other colors? What if...but... why...
And meanwhile, in a reality near you, opportunities are flying by as you analyze if the moment you had is right for you. By the time you have come to a conclusion, that seconed, minute or lifetime has passed.
Do yourself a favor and the next time someone extends a circumstance your way, "save yourself some faux soul-searching and just say YES!"